"It occurs to me that a resolution is a funny thing. It’s a promise I make to do something, in theory, for my own benefit, and so it would seem natural for me to want to do it. And yet, if I wanted to do the thing I’m promising to do in the first place, I probably wouldn’t need to make a resolution! In a way, a resolution serves as a demand from one part of myself to another – from the part that wants to toward the part that doesn’t. Immediately I feel some relief as I acknowledge this, as well as the fact that rivaling whatever need may be present for the part of me that wants to write, lose weight, stick to a budget, etc, my need for autonomy, for freedom from domination -even by my own hand- is just as strong. Out of this new awareness of the subtle way in which a well intentioned resolution can be perceived by some part of me as a threat to my freedom and thus create the condition for an internal rebellion, a question arises: is there any value in making a resolution?
My first sense is that there is value in noticing the impulse toward making a resolution and viewing it as an indication that there is an unmet need present and a desire to feel a certain way as a result of meeting that need. Approached with curiosity and compassion, and a willingness to look beneath the surface, I believe my resolution can put me in touch with my heart’s deepest longings."
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Happy new years!